Finding Your Friends

Wednesdays is where we practice noticing where Love walks among us--where we have felt the presence of Love or noticed its absence. Upon reflection over the last week, I have found Love in my FOO - my friends of origin! They are awesome!

Over the last week, from Thursday to Sunday, I was at the Pacific Northwest United Methodist Annual Conference meeting. While this is not unusual, what was different for me this year was that I spent the time with a wonderful friend. We planned our meals together, drive to & fro, and she let me stay at her apartment which was MUCH closer than where I live. We supported each other emotionally through conference discussions and gave each other the freedom to go and do our separate business and our separate friend visiting. It was a wonderful time spent in 'philia' love. The Greek definition love that describes much of the love found in friendship. Where there is love, there is God.

Well, really, God is there all the time. Perhaps we feel God the most when we are filled with love - no matter what kind of love! The ancient Greeks had 3 types of love and the modern Greeks added a 4th. They are:

  • phileo - love for your friends
  • eros - love grounded in attraction to another
  • agape - unconditional love, described as "spiritual love" or "servant love"
  • storge - this is the more modern love, rarely used in ancient times, but expresses love as a parent for a child

(Note: all of these definitions are at the highest level. There is some great research that takes the definitions to very deep and beautiful levels.)

I am reminded of the story in Christian scripture where Peter and Jesus are talking back and forth.

15 When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love (agape) me more than these?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love (phileo) you.” Jesus said to him, “Feed my lambs.”

16 A second time he said to him, “Simon son of John, do you love (agape) me?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love (phileo) you.” Jesus said to him, “Tend my sheep.” 

17 He said to him the third time, “Simon son of John, do you love (phileo) me?” Peter felt hurt because he said to him the third time, “Do you love (phileo) me?” And he said to him, “Lord, you know everything; you know that I love (phileo) you.” Jesus said to him, “Feed my sheep.

It is so interesting! Because the original hearers of the Greek story would totally have heard the difference between agape and phileo. And we mush it together and don't hear that Peter just wants the love of his dear friend. A friend's loving care can make all the difference to who we are and who we become.

So today, I am aware that God, who is love, is found in the love between friends.

Where do you see divine Love today?

by Cheryl Hicks CC (BY NC)
by Cheryl Hicks
CC (BY NC)

2 comments

  1. CuriositytotheMax said on June 25, 2014
    A wonderful post. I LOVED it. My friends are wonderful and you've given me inspiration to contact them today. May I add one more definition of love that is Baha'i? “These four kinds of love originate from God. These are rays from the Sun of Reality; these are the Breathings of the Holy Spirit; these are the Signs of Reality.” ❤ ❤ ❤ ❤ “The first is the love that flows from God to man . . . Through this love the world of being receives life. . . This love is the origin of all the love in the world of creation. “The second is the love that flows from man to God. This is faith, attraction to the Divine. . . .This love is the origin of all philanthropy. “The third is the love of God towards the Self or Identity of God. This is the transfiguration of His Beauty, the reflection of Himself in the mirror of His creation. . . . . . .Through one ray of this love all other loves exists.” “The fourth is the love of man for man. The love which exists between the hears of believers is prompted by the ideal of the unity of spirits. . . ..This love will bring the realization of true accord, the foundation of real unity.” From The Divine Art of Living, Baha’I
    1. Terri said on June 25, 2014
      Beautiful! I find that lovely. I am glad you are motivated to contact a friend or two!

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