I'm right! Darnit! and Pay attention to my rightness!
Or, in other words, attachment to rightness. But not just my rightness but acknowledgment of my rightness.
You see, I know that I'm right. That I was right. That my rightness is justified. But by gosh, I want to hear my two team-members say so.
This is a true thing before me this morning as emails about a team project have been flying through the air. Do I let go of the micro-aggressions and the multiple soul-sized papercuts? Or do I point out that I am not being heard or acknowledged? This is for a major grade in class. Hmm. The team has come around to my initial suggestion while altogether side-stepping or acknowledging that I articulated the idea. This is such a frustrating place to be in. I feel like I am understanding that thing that happens in groups where a woman states an idea, a man restates it, then it is a fabulous idea! - a Hepeat if you will. But then there are the women that go along with the hepeat! What gives?!
So, I suppose, my task is to know what battles to fight. Will the battle yield fruit? Isn't that a strange battle? Battles that yield fruit? Maybe I'm thinking about this in a wrong way if I'm thinking in battle terminology! How about I twist it up... What seed did I plant? (the idea) Will it yield fruit? (yes) Does it need a little fertilizer? (yes).
I think that is a better way of looking at the topic. I'm still really annoyed. The idea still needs some help. But I don't need to go into battle. I need to plant seeds. And I need to practice non-attachment to my rightness.
“Non-attachment is the process of creating without being attached to the results.” Beth Banning
“It is a sign of great character and strength to be able to lose your attachment to anyone or anything that isn’t good for you.” Anonymous
“One should discard attachment to be happy.” Chanakya
“Let go of expectations. Let go of your attachment to outcomes.” Anonymous
“Nothing ever belonged to you. Even you will be returned. Don’t get attached.” Anonymous
My prayer for everyone today is that we find a path to happiness that yields in planting seeds rather than in going into battle.