Tuesday’s Temptation: Better

Better is the enemy of the good. Voltaire

I admit that I am not a Voltaire scholar. But the English variant of this quote caught my attention. Perfect is the enemy of the good. This comes up in justice circles (side note: can we discuss the "need" for the phrase social justice in an attempt to differentiate from the justice system). In justice circles, that which is concerned for the common welfare of humanity, people are grouped into basically three categories:

  1. Those who work for change and will take any result.
  2. Those who work for change and will only take results that cross a certain threshold.
  3. Those who work for change and will only take the results that remove all barriers to change.

If the idea is perfection, then numbers 1 and 2 are anathema to number 3. Creating a moment where people who are ostensibly striving for the same thing are in opposition to one another.

In Christian scripture, there is this story of Mary and Martha in Luke 10. In the story, Jesus is hanging out at their house. Dinner is being prepared and all it is a frenzy of activity that is falling on Martha's shoulders (because patriarchy). Mary, however, who should be sharing the burden with Martha according to patriarchy has abandoned the preparations in order to sit at Jesus' feet. Martha has had it. She cries out to Jesus, "Don't you care that I have been abandoned to do all the work? Tell Mary to help me!"

From BibleHub.com; comparison of translations

Unfortunately, this next bit is where most of our Bible translations go off the wheels. In Jesus' reply. Most translations report that Jesus say Mary chooses what is better, the one thing that is necessaryright choicewhat is right, or what is best. The truth of the matter is that in Greek, there is a multiplicity of options to choose for the response. So Jesus' words depends entirely on your own approach to patriarchy, what it means to be in relationship with the Divine, and willingness to consider that a multiplicity of "good" is possible. What if Mary's choice is good and Martha's choice is also good? What if the two goods are to be in tension with each other? What if we allow Mary to remove the barriers to patriarchy by entering into a space reserved for men while we simultaneously allow Martha to continue serving in the way she is called? And make sure that Martha knows that her way should not be forced onto the Mary's of the world.

Of course, I would posit that this is the real tension. Martha cannot see that the Mary solution is viable. But the patriarchy, of which Mary has no entered into, cannot see that they have put a heavy burden on Martha. Some say the solution would be to call Martha into the space that Mary is in. The question for me becomes, "How will we eat?"

There is a creative third way that can come if we listen to Mary (#3 type person) an Martha (#1 type person). They allow the perfect or better to become the enemy of the good. What if they work together? Mary brings Martha into the space reserved for men. And when they all get hungry, they work together to teach the willing how to cook some food (this is way easier said than done--remember that the kitchen wasn't modern and cooking was a big endeavor). Maybe they need take-out. It isn't that Martha's task shouldn't be done. It just shouldn't be done in such a way that is exploitative.

At any rate, I share Martha and Mary as an example of the better being the enemy of the good. If Mary's way is better, it becomes the enemy of the good--the work that Martha is doing. The work that patriarchy has undervalued since the beginning of time.  If we are not careful, we fall into the same patterns. In striving for the better or perfect, we undervalue those who choose a less radical path. Then Martha and Mary become enemies of one another rather than taking down patriarchy together.

The temptation is to always think that our way is better. Or that unless we get it all, it isn't working getting. That perfection is worth sacrificing those who do good.

Our job is to not be tempted by better and to make it a universal rule for everyone. Our job is to sit in the truth that there are a multiplicity of goods that exist in the world and for each of us to choose our good part.

I pray that each of us will be able to choose our good part on this day and forever more. Earnestly striving to bring freedom to all to choose their own path free from exploitation.


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  1. jrcowles said on February 20, 2018
    Would folks start sharpening their pitchforks and lighting their torches if I were to suggest that yet another option would be for Jesus to get up off his rabbinical ass and maybe ... HELP MARTHA FIX DINNER for the 3 of them? (While continuing to teach, that is! Surely the Eternal Word incarnate can multi-task.) I’m no Diane-caliber cook, but around 5:30 pm you can find me slicing bread, building a salad ( at which I’m damn good, BTW), setting the table, etc., so Diane doesn’t have to quite start from scratch when she gets home an hour later. Far’s I can tell, my ‘nads haven’t shriveled to the size of chick-peas. I read the story as actually validating patriarchy because Jesus does NOT do this. But maybe I missed something.
    1. hannah said on February 20, 2018
      Yes I was thinking of that too. But I thought that’s a whole other blog post. :) So the part that I think is invalidating patriarchy is affirming Mary’s choice to be with the men. My question is — if we are to destroy patriarchy, how do we not leave Martha behind? Is it OK to ignore Martha? For the places that are not ready to let Mary all the way into the salon, but will let her into the living room, is that good enough?
      1. jrcowles said on February 20, 2018
        My solution: crash the salon. My favorite line from “The Post” is where Ben Bradley (or Katherine Graham) says “The way you prove you have the right to publish is by publishing”. People get arrested — I have — but they survive — I did — and the next people to crash the salon will have an easier time.
        1. hannah said on February 20, 2018
          Not everyone is comfortable doing that — and isn’t that the very progressive edge that says tear it all down that ends up with Trump because they don’t take the living room with them?
          1. jrcowles said on February 20, 2018
            In saner political times when Republicans considered Nelson Rockefeller a radical, no. But given the rise of para-fascism ... yeah ... point taken. In fact, today’s SCOTUS might decide “Sullivan” the OPPOSITE way. I have to bear in mind that these days the militant brain-dead will fight back.
          2. hannah said on February 20, 2018
            It is only when I use my phone app :/
  2. hannah said on February 20, 2018
    Also I don’t know why WordPress thinks I’m Hannah
    1. jrcowles said on February 20, 2018
      Yeah ... we’ve gone through this before back when I thought Hannah was a real person.
  3. jrcowles said on February 20, 2018
    Options 2 and 3 are how ostensible progressives — a.k.a. “boutique progressives” — ended up de facto voting for Trump, BTW. Insisting on perfection makes one vulnerable to the meretricious blandishments of the perfectly Evil.
    1. hannah said on February 20, 2018
      But people don’t see that and I don’t know how to help them see that. :/ They are too worried about not being complicit with evil that they do not realize that they are fully embedded in oppression.
      1. jrcowles said on February 20, 2018
        I know. I’ve terminated personal friendships (real-world not FB) with probably a half-dozen converts to the Jonestown-cults of Trump and the Fourth Reich. “there is some shit i will not eat” — e. e. cummings
        1. hannah said on February 20, 2018
          So in between the cult And burning down the salon is a lot of room
  4. jrcowles said on February 20, 2018
    BTW ... unrelated subject, but ... what is a “pingback” and why does WP issue them? Whenever I link to a previous “Skeptic’s” column I always get an e-mail request to approve a “pingback”. No big deal. I always approve it. Just curious.
    1. hannah said on February 20, 2018
      It is the connection. Like authorizing an official bibliography. Some people try to do ping backs that I would not want to be connected to.
    2. hannah said on July 27, 2018
      It is a website link
  5. jrcowles said on February 21, 2018
    I haven’t read the Greek text, though I certainly will. (I feel perhaps a “Skeptic’s” column gestating.) But all the English translations from BibleHub, to me, reinforce both (a) a kind of supercilious, J. K. Huysmans-adjacent “crypto-Gnosticism” on Jesus’ part (“Oh Martha! Eating is such a frightfully BOURGEOIS activity! Do sit down and discuss Talmud with Mary and me ... theah’s a good girl!”) and (b) patriarchy. But I’ll have to read the koine-Greek text to make an informed judgment.

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