I watched the musical Into The Woods this week so now I am pondering "happily ever after". I feel both blessed and lucky that I have someone special to share my life with and Mike's done more than his fair share of rescuing me from my tower of follies. And I get to be his prince rescuing him from his follies sometimes too. Yet I confess that I was raised on "and they lived happily ever after" and I feel it's loss sometimes.
First off not all of us have lived. Death is a real part of life which does not stop for love or fairy tales. No one can rescue us from our towers of grief. We must find a way to live in the world without noble princes on white horses when someone we love dies.
Secondly, there is that "happily ever after" part. I have a deep joy in my heart emanating from my relationship with my personal prince. But happiness is different. It's a bit like sex, fleeting and fabulous but you can't live there all the time. No one's life works that way. Sadness, irritation, frustration, and burdensome are just some of the other feelings of "ever after" in our lives of princesses and princes. Mistakes happen. Bad choices are made. Life goes on.
Through this examination of "happily ever after" I've discovered something better. Something more real. Something more hopeful. Happily Every Now And Then. What a wonderful idea! Our realities break through our personal fairy tales, that is true. But it is also true that our fairy tales break through our realities sometimes. What a blessing. I am grateful.
"And they lived happily ever after. Or not!"