Wednesday, August 4
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Tag: clinging

Mindful Monday: Attachment to strong opinions

Mindful Monday: Attachment to strong opinions

Buddhism, mindfulness, Spirituality
"As Buddhists, we need not give up even strong opinions and positions – but we do have to give up attachment to them. Not being attached to them is to abandon the idea that because I think or believe something, it is true. And abandon the idea that the opinions of others are somehow lacking just because they are another’s idea, not mine. This makes commitment to growing, evolving truth more important than opinions and positions. The great philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said, 'A very popular error: having the courage of one’s convictions; rather it is a matter of having the courage for an attack on one’s convictions.' "This is the Buddhist way, too. Having a conviction, opinion, position, is inevitable. Holding to it carries no great virtue. Virtue is, while having a position, being open ...
Mindful Monday: Living with disappointment

Mindful Monday: Living with disappointment

Buddhism, mindfulness, Spirituality
"I once heard [one] of my meditation teachers, Joseph Goldstein, speaking to [someone] who had just lost a loved one and was asking for help in understanding how to cope. Joseph made a very important distinction between sorrow (pain) and grief (disappointment). 'Sorrow is a natural response to loss,' he said, 'But grief is an unwillingness to accept what is.' I was struck by just how true this is. Lingering disappointment comes about because there is a tendency to transform your loss into a story instead of accepting it as an event. [...] Maybe you had a disappointment in your childhood that you've carried around for decades; perhaps it was the way you were raised or something harmful that shaped your life. Maybe your disappointment is more recent: loss of a loved one, a failed relationshi...