"Rather than reinforcing our 'me-ness' and justifying ourselves constantly, we should base our lives on something more powerful and trustworthy. If we develop real trust in ourselves, constant self-defense is no longer required. [...] When we look into ourselves we tend to fixate on our neurosis, restlessness, and aggression. Or we might fixate on how wonderful, accomplished, and invulnerable we are, but those feelings are usually superficial, covering up our insecurities. Take a look. There is something else, something more than all that. We are willing: willing to wait, willing to smile, willing to be decent. We shouldn't discount that potential, that powerful seed of gentleness. [...] It is worth appreciating ourselves, having affection for ourselves, and taking care of ourselves. Genuineness, goodness, and appreciation are extraordinary gifts. Ultimately, that is where we place our trust. This truth is so true that we don't have to pretend at all. It is real. [...] There is an alternative to feeling condemned."
--Chögyam Trungpa, Mindfulness in Action: Making Friends with Yourself through Meditation and Everyday Awareness.
What are you noticing about your level of self-defense in the present moment?
for Mindful Monday
Photo Credit:"karate training," Kai Schreiber, 2006.