"I once heard [one] of my meditation teachers, Joseph Goldstein, speaking to [someone] who had just lost a loved one and was asking for help in understanding how to cope. Joseph made a very important distinction between sorrow (pain) and grief (disappointment). 'Sorrow is a natural response to loss,' he said, 'But grief is an unwillingness to accept what is.' I was struck by just how true this is. Lingering disappointment comes about because there is a tendency to transform your loss into a story instead of accepting it as an event. [...] Maybe you had a disappointment in your childhood that you've carried around for decades; perhaps it was the way you were raised or something harmful that shaped your life. Maybe your disappointment is more recent: loss of a loved one, a failed relationship, or a major disease. No matter how disappointing or horrible it was, it is over now. Like a tree that grows on the side of a mountain and is bent and shaped by heavy winds, you have been formed as you now are by this and other events of your life. Let the experience go, allow it to have its death in the flow of time, for it is a natural part of time. Allow its death to be the fertilizer for what you cultivate in the life that it has left you." -- Phillip Moffitt
What are you noticing in this moment about any disappointment you're carrying?