I have written before about the likelihood of intelligent life in our Galaxy, and how the existence or non-existence of life in the Milky Way relates to human religious sensibilities. Now I want to take a more “global” perspective and approach that same question, not from the relatively parochial standpoint of intelligent life “merely” in our Galaxy, but from the standpoint of intelligent life in the entire Universe. But the questions I pose here are essentially the same in all respects as the questions I posed in the original “Skeptic’s Collection” column. Given some realistic-seeming, in fact, most likely optimistic, assumptions about the probability that intelligent life will evolve on any given planet orbiting any given star, how widely separated – across the entire Universe – mu...
I'm in the process of ending a relationship. We were together 15 years, and even though things were always somewhat rocky, my partner and stepdaughter and I always said we were ohana.
Nobody gets left behind or forgotten.
That doesn't work in the world of separation and divorce.
It's time to start looking for my new ohana. I expect that when I find it, it will be unexpected. Some people call this finding your tribe. I call it community.
God sets the lonely in families. (Psalm 68:6). It doesn't have to be family by blood. You can choose members of this family with which to surround yourself.
Remember those today who have been left behind or forgotten.
I used to believe that being alone was the equivalent of being lonely. There was no way that loneliness could be a good thing, so if I spent more free time alone than in the company of people I cared about, I felt lonely. I didn't like feeling lonely, so that led to my feeling depressed and angry.
Then I learned something important and surprising. Being alone doesn't have to be the same thing as being lonely. Being isolated doesn't have to be the same thing as choosing time alone. Even when I can't get out of the house, I can choose to view my time alone as a gift.
I'm an introvert, so you wouldn't expect this to be the revelation it was. I never realized that solitude would give me the chance to go more deeply within myself and learn things that I couldn't when I was fighting my cir...