In Shadowlands, the movie about the courtship and marriage of C. S. Lewis and Joy Davidman Gresham, C. S. Lewis is quoted as saying “We read to know we are not alone”. I have found multitudes of citations where people quote Lewis as having said this in those very words, but have so far found no specific source, no book, no article, no lecture, for this remark. But even if Lewis did not say it, he should have. For in my own personal experience, there have been instances too abundant to count where this proved to be the case with uncanny timeliness. The following examples do not even scratch the surface. But in virtually all cases of where I have been reminded that I am not alone, this reminder also amounted to a revelation of what I myself thought even at times when I was not aware
It's so easy to think of someone who needs help as lesser than the helper. That's why it's so difficult for some of us to ask for help. We think that people will look down on us.
I looked and looked for a picture that seemed to portray helping in a different way, Yes, the dolphins are helping a baby seal find its way; but I loved the narrator calling the dolphins' efforts "nudges." Sometimes that's all that needed--a nudge to set someone (or some creature) back on the path. It doesn't mean there is something wrong because the creature needs the nudge. It doesn't mean the helper is better than the creature he/she is helping. It simply means that the creature needs a nudge--a boost--to get back on the path of life.
This past week the wate
This “Skeptic’s” column tackles a subject that is both delicate and volatile: suicide. People who have known me for a fairly long time are well acquainted with a time in my life – during the time in Boston at Harvard and later at Seattle University during the equally ill-advised quest for the MDiv -- when I was undergoing episodes of very severe, quite arguably pre-suicidal, clinical depression. So – for the benefit of those people, for “my mariners, souls that have toiled and wrought and thought with me” – I want to emphasize that the following column does not describe me as I am now. Quite the contrary. I am not in crisis. I am not depressed. I am not afflicted with suicidal ideation – a term I came to know all too intimately during the “winter of [my] discontent”. So those of you